Positivity Detox & Allowing Yourself To Truly Feel

Hold on
One more time with feeling
Try it again, breathing’s just a rhythm
— Regina Spektor

Now I believe in this just as much as anyone else, but there’s also the reality side of life. While we all try and think positively about life and we’re optimistic for the best, sometimes life gets in the way is uncooperative. That doesn’t mean we have to slide to the far side of the spectrum and spiral into negativity, but there is a point where we have to allow ourselves to truly feel and experience life in all of its ups and downs.

We’re all trying to be the best versions of ourselves, but sometimes we need to take a break from being overly positive and actually observe, take stock and simmer in our life and emotions as they are. This is your permission for a spiritual, positive detox.

Now I’m not telling you to start wallowing in your misery, but there are times when we need to take break from being outwardly positive and just live without the pressures of always trying to appear happy and motivational. There’s nothing wrong with taking a break from the positivity train to really live in your situation.

Why should we do this? Because forcing ourselves to live in a facade when we want to express disappointment or dissatisfaction isn’t healthy for us. We need to be able to breathe, vent and repeat if necessary.

The truth is, there is no prize at the end of the day for being the most positive person in the room who never has a down day or an authentic moment. And for those worried about their public image, I have a secret to tell you—we have ALL had off days where we quit trying to be excessively optimistic, lowered our mask of perpetual happiness and enlightenment and just connected with our friends or neighbors as a person who just didn’t want to pretend or feign emotions they didn’t have. 

There are some thoughts you can’t avoid and some feelings you can’t deny
— -Anonymous

Of course, it’s easier said than done, but it’s important to remember, all of your heroes, idols and successful figures have had off days. Think about the number of failures or negative experiences industry-leaders like Elon Musk, Oprah Winfrey or Bill Gates had. Usually, they’re always carrying a grin, a can-do attitude and words of encouragement for individuals or society at large, but sometimes, even if it’s a rare occasion, they share their human side that doesn’t want to force positivity and optimism. 

Our ability to feel and connect with one another on a wide range of emotions is a defining trait for people. We have the ability to feel elated beyond belief and melancholy over the not-so great days. None of these emotions are inherently better than another. Sitting and dwelling on the negative experiences in your life is obviously going to be a hindrance to you. But accepting your human nature and allowing yourself to truly feel and express the wide range of emotions that we as people undergo is natural. Feeling lachrymose or euphoric doesn’t make you better or worse, it makes you human. 

We have to keep the faith that life will always get better, even in the darkest of times, and living with a positive mindset and optimistic outlook will undoubtedly benefit your life. Though that doesn’t mean you have to hide your emotions when they’re not elated and bury your feelings for the benefit of the public perception.

You have a right to feel everything you do, and when you mask your emotions without reason, you’re doing yourself a disservice. So stop feeling boxed in and accept that as a person sometimes you’ll have down days and other days you’ll experience joy you couldn’t have imagined. 

In the end, all that matters is that you remain authentic and live true to yourself. The world deserves the best version of you, and that version is the raw, genuine you that will make an important impact on your community and go through trials and triumphs as you emerge from your story a victor in life’s challenges.